If someone you know is gambling for more than fun, they may have a problem. Talking to them can seem scary, but they need you to have courage. Here are some ways to begin the conversation.
- Find a comfortable place to talk where you won't be disturbed.
- Keep it simple and straightforward.
- Tell the person you care about him and you're concerned about how they are acting.
- Tell the person exactly what they have done that concerns you.
- Tell the person how their behavior is affecting other people-and be specific.
- Be clear about what you expect from them ("I want you to talk to someone about your your gambling.") and what they can expect from you ("I won't cover for you anymore.")
- After you've told the person what you've seen and how you feel, allow them to respond. Listen with a non-judgmental attitude.
- Let the person know you are willing to help, but don't try to counsel them yourself.
- Give the person information, not advice. Encourage then to call the National Gambling Hotline.
When their problem is your problem
If you are the spouse or family member of a problem gambler, it is important for you to take care of yourself and realize that you are not responsible for the gambler's behavior. Even if your loved one isn't ready or willing to get help, you may want to call the Problem Gambling Hotline or talk to a counselor yourself.
Make the call
A problem gambler doesn't necessarily need to "hit bottom" to decide to get help. To get specific advice on how and when to approach the problem gambler you know, call the problem gambling hotline.
If playing is not fun anymore, call for help.
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Information gathered from www.npgaw.org